So often struggling with fertility feels like it is basically about trying so hard to get it right.
How many times does it seem to boil down to this…
TRYING TO GOOGLE EVERYTHING YOU COUD EVER NEED TO KNOW, OR HAS EVER WORKED FOR FOR ANY OTHER PERSON IN THE KNOWN GALAXY….and then doing it all.
I honestly don’t know whether to laugh or cry about some of the things that I thought were a good idea to order after hours of searching. Seriously, some very, very dodgy decisions…way too suspect to even share!
It’s a conversation that’s come up a lot this week. About the overwhelmed, crazy woman that hours and hours of searching can turn you in to, and about the minefield of questions it leaves you with.
What IS all the right stuff to eat?
What ARE the right vitamins, supplements and herbs to take, and when?
Which ones work together or against one another, which ones support IVF, and which ones don’t?
Should you be doing acupuncture, reflexology, mindfulness, yoga or steaming your yoni?!!!
And exactly how important is it to avoid or restrict certain things to help your fertility?
As well as the trillion and one other questions and bits of advice you come across too.
And once you’ve done your hours and hours of googling, and tried desperately to put it all together and do everything, and NOT BE STRESSED!…
Then the exhaustion kicks in, and you try harder still because it feels like you’re the only one who can’t get it together, and logic tells you need to push and try harder.
But, the truth is, none of it needs to be textbook.
It just feels like it does, when you’re worn out from trying so hard.
Instead it’s honestly about making sure that any plan you put together actually feels good for you.
That it feels like inspired action rather than panic response action…the scattered, fearful, ‘I must be doing this or trying that or it’s not going to work’ action.
It doesn’t matter who you know that is apparently ‘doing it all’. If she isn’t feeling peaceful in her actions then it’s not the best way forward. The components of your journey and the ingredients for success are totally individual to you.
It’s about including only the parts that make sense to you, and listening carefully to yourself and your heart so you know how you truly feel about each and every aspect.
That, my loves is one HUGE key to all of this.
Probably the biggest, single thing we do in all our support is bringing you back to this.
Guiding you through the minefield and the overwhelm in a gentler, simpler way so that you know what vitamins and supplements and approaches are supportive for you and your circumstances, how to put them together so they work together rather than against each other, and above all what makes sense and feels right for you.
Having the hard work taken out of it, and a plan that feels like it fits with what you and your body need, seems to take care of a whole deep layer of worry and fear, that allows you to ease back in to that place of inspired action once again, that sometimes just gets buried under the google overwhelm.
And it’s amazing what happens when you find that place again …
One of our ladies was doing a natural IVF cycle that was called off because ovulation had been missed despite all the monitoring by the clinic, but she felt so strongly that her body was ready and the timing was actually right…not out of fear or panic but that feeling of inspired action that comes in when we’re in our bodies and feeling safe and able to hear that gut instinct guiding us…she went ahead with the transfer and despite having had some very difficult times up to that point, that was the moment it all turned around and her daughter was conceived.
There are so many gorgeous stories we could share with you like this…about transferring the embryo that the clinic had said wasn’t worth bothering with…about knowing it felt right to jump back in despite the 4th IVF being unsuccessful and conceiving naturally before her next cycle started…about conceiving even though cycles were far from text book that month or IVF cycles hadn’t followed the golden plan.
Each time it seems to be so much less about the method or trying to get ‘it’ perfect, and so much more about you, and how it makes you feel, and we’d love to help in every way we can.
Lucy and Cath x
One HUGE key to all of this…
Taken from Principle #3 From the Principles for Success in the Fix Your Fertility Haven
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